The more I talked to them, the better I felt.
This is the answer to my ability to "get out of my head" get out of my pain, and leave the past where it belongs. When I am filling a need in someones elses life instead of focusing on the needs in my own life, my own needs either disappear or get taken care of without much hoopla.
I agree with you about your inner calling for the elderly. You have a gift to feel, see, experience what they are that very few can know. That takes love, deep empathy and a special gift few have. Follow your heart my friend.
Guilt's only function is to turn us around when we are doing something habitually that is destructive to ourselves, others, or the earth. If you have guilt that isn't related to that, then it is not worthy of your time. If there is something you are doing habitually that is harmful to yourself or others, you need to deal with it but in a healthy way.
As a believer in God, I use the description; anything we think say or do that displeases God is sin, and will cause guilt. But after being a JW, sometimes God's will gets clouded. He doesn't sweat the small stuff He wants our hearts, and He wants us to know that in spite of all the pain He allows others to cause us, He loves us and we can trust that. The saying "what doesn't kill us makes us stronger" is true for me. We can turn all this pain and anguish into love and understanding for other's pain, or allow it to turn us hard and bitter.
There were times in my life that I seen a psychiatrist and was on meds. It really helped with the out of control feelings I was having. I have been to Psychologists, Psychoanalysts, and Christian counselors to get through a decade of emotional pain and confusion. There is no stigma for getting help when we need it. If the first Doctor doesn't work, try another.
I'm so sorry you have been suffering so. You DESERVE to wake up feeling happy to be alive. You DESERVE to wake up feeling joyful. That is my deepest desire for you. May 2007 open a door to whole new and wonderful day for you!
Love~Kate
ps I got my 2 grandbabies for 5 whole days woooohoooooo!!! I'm going to take them to the Senior Care Center. They are 4 and 7.